Ask SaferStudent Anonymous Questions
Have a college safety question you'd rather ask anonymously? You're not alone. Below are real questions submitted by students and parents, along with honest answers from our campus safety professionals. Don't see your question? Submit it anonymously using the form below and we'll add the answer to help other families
Student Questions
My roommate keeps bringing sketchy people back to our room and I'm getting worried. Don't want to be that person who rats them out but I'm honestly scared. This isn't about being a snitch - it's about your safety. Talk to your RA privately about room safety concerns. They can address it without making you the "bad guy." Your safety matters more than keeping the peace.
Pretty sure someone messed with my drink last night but I can't prove it. Should I still report it or will they think I'm making it up? Yes, report it to campus security or Title IX office. You don't need proof to report concerns. They're trained to investigate and can help determine what happened. Your report might prevent it from happening to someone else.
Is it weird that I get nervous walking alone at night on campus? My friends act like I'm being dramatic. It's completely normal to feel cautious, and those instincts are actually protective. Use campus escort services, well-lit paths, and buddy system when possible. Trust your gut - if something feels off, it probably is.
My friends keep saying I'm being paranoid about safety stuff. How do I not look like a total weirdo but still stay safe? Real friends support your safety choices. You can be social and safety-conscious - suggest group activities, be the designated driver, or suggest safer party locations. Your safety is worth more than anyone's opinion.
Parent Questions
My daughter rolled her eyes when I tried to talk about safety and said I was being "extra." How do I get through to her without her shutting me out? Frame it as wanting her to be empowered, not protected. Focus on giving her tools rather than restrictions. "I want you to feel confident handling any situation" works better than "I'm worried about you."
I have this gut feeling something's wrong with my son but he says everything's fine. How do I know if I should be worried? Watch for changes in communication patterns, grades dropping without explanation, mood shifts that last weeks, or requests for money that don't make sense. Trust your parent instincts - you know your child.
